I’ve read this book two months ago “He's just not that into you” by Greg and Liz. The book is beautiful; it has no story line but it introduced the concept of responding to the letters written by several women relating to how confused they are about the guy they’re dating with. Greg had given a lot of solutions to these confused women. I enjoyed reading the letters people had written to him, and wondered what I would suggest to the lady who’d written it, if I were to be Greg. There were so many good points that were covered in the book. I recommend every lady to go forth and read that book, in case you’re dating the wrong guy, or your relationship is not running smooth like before. But, after reading the book I was so much inspired to write about some of the points about how relationships start and how they end, and how strong a girl has to be in handling such situations and also realize that the guy she’s dating with is “not just that into her”.
FRIENDS
Every relationship starts with friendship. You hang out together; you see each other like a lot.
You talk to him over the phone for a hundred days now. Then maybe you think he’s the “Guy” for you, who fits best as the prince of your life. The guy also gives you too many compliments for you to digest, takes care of you like your mom does, and likes you the most out of all the other girls in the group. Then you keep waiting for him to ask you out. This rolls around somewhat early if you indicate the same likeness he shows towards you. He asks you out, and then you say yes.
(Sometimes the guy, who you think likes you the most, won’t ask you out. This is because he doesn’t like you the way you like him. Or in simple words he’s just not that into you, go see around if someone fits to be your hero and not waste your time on a person who can never ask you out.)
FIRST FANTASTIC YEAR
The first fantastic year of your love life is as smooth as a strawberry smoothie. You just gulp down the whole thing because it’s too yummy, yea? And sit with an empty can. You talk over the phone all night till your ears hurt. Listen to love songs and just day dream about your hero. You talk about him all day with your friends. You’re totally in love. You buy him gifts and greeting cards. You start writing poetry. You get this feeling that you will die without him and everything around including your family members is just a blur. All you see is your guy, who is not really sitting on a horse. He meets you every day, spends huge time with you, spends all his money over your clothes, takes you to every place you love visiting, holds hands, looks into your eyes, and says the most amazing words that you’ve ever heard. Just like a smoothie.
COMMITMENTS
Too many commitments like, I will die without you, and I cannot live without you blah blah blah
are most widely known in every relationship. But how many of these known commitments are true? None of us have the answer. Maybe 10% out of the 100 keep up these promises they make but not all. And those 10% are the successful relationships. The rest are just failures. Before committing to someone just think once about how much you really mean those words.
(After the smoothie story it’s time for me to mention the most confusing points that arise in a relationship)
WHERE ARE YOU?
Some of you don’t inform your parents about your plans but would definitely tell your guy every bit of information such as where you are and with who you are, true? Read the conversation below
The girl gets a phone call from her guy:
Girl – Holy cow! Answers the phone – Hi baby I was trying to call you what’s up?
Boy – Nothing much, what you doing? Hears the background honks and laughs and yells on the road. And question changes. Where are you?
Girl – I’m out with a friend. I tried to call you but you didn’t answer the phone honey.
Boy – Hmm which friend?
Girl – my college friend sweetheart, remember I told you about sheetal?
Boy – Silence
Girl – Hello? Sweety? Say something.
Boy – silence
Girl - Tries to be stupid by giving explanations – sorry honey I tried to inform you about my plan but didn’t work out. I’ll be backing home soon and will give you a call so that we can talk lots!
Boy – Kay, have FUN.
Girl- Fun? Baby no fun without you.
Boy – disconnects.
(No one should have a problem with you hanging out with your friends. Do what makes you happy! And most importantly don’t let anyone take control over your life. In simple words if your guy is not happy with you meeting your friends then note he’s just not that into you and if you talk about informing him, you at least tried so not your fault.)
PLANS
You make plans to meet your guy, but he makes some other plans already.
Boy – hi my choco pie mwah
Girl – Hey shweetooo what you doing? Had lunch? I missed you so much.
Boy – Yeah I had my lunch. Never bothers to ask her if she had her lunch wah.
Girl – hmm what plans for the evening?
Boy – No plans... umm not sure though. Why? Doesn’t tell he had plans made with his friends already.
Girl – Lets meet this evening, what say?
Boy – Umm… I guess… Girl interrupts.
Girl- Okay done then I’ll see you at 5 pm at the same place.
Boy – tries to tell her about his plan – sweety actually... umm... will call you in a while…
Girl – kay lets meet at 5 at least say something about it?
Boy – I won’t be able to meet you...
Girl – why? Starts crying
Boy – Oh I guess I have plans to meet my friends I forgot about it.
Girl – fine.. enjoy…
Boy – doesn’t even realize the girl is crying!
Girl – what more?
Boy – Chalo I gotta get ready now. Will talk later!
Girl – Silence
Boy – Bye love you. *click*
(This happens most of the time, it’s not the guys fault either but he should have been clear at the first place when the girl asked him if he had any plans. If a guy is not SURE to tell you about his plans, then how SURE is he to marry you?)
I AM BUSY
And now you’re guy won’t have so much of time to spend with you. He starts making excuses “I’m busy”, “I have a meeting, sweety”, “I’m too tired”, “I want time for myself”. And so you start having mini-fights over these issues every day and every hour. You keep getting thoughts like “Is he talking to someone else over the phone?” “Is he dating someone else?” “Is he just making excuses?” And that’s when the relations start skating on thin ice. And maybe some of you like taking those excuses, which is brilliant.
AFTER A FIGHT
Your guy never calls you after a fight? What do you do? Consider yourself a down-to-earth-and-not-so-ego-maniac-person? And you end up making a call to your guy even if the fight was wholly started by him, nice. But wake up, how long are you going to do that? Even if you do this now, the credit is always taken away by him. Stop letting someone take you for granted. Wake up and be a princess because you don’t have to run around someone who’s just not that into you.
DISAPPEARS
One day after a fight your guy disappears and would never contact you. You try to contact him, and get back to him but things don’t work out. If someone disappears like that it’s not about their ego, you need to know that you’re dumped. And remember if someone disappears without letting you know anything then he’s just not that into you. You deserve the best.
There are just 10% of guys who LOVE their girls without any conditions (I know a few). I think everyone of us be it a girl or a boy should start loving without conditions, there wouldn’t be so many breakups at all in any relationship and lives would be super!
PS: Don’t let anyone take you for granted.
